Suicide, by definition, means intentionally ending one’s own life.

Those who have had, or are having, suicidal thoughts talk about experiencing some or all of the following:

  • an extreme sense of worthlessness or of being a burden on people
  • a sense of hopelessness, that things will never change or get better 
  • withdrawing from everyone, becoming isolated and alone
  • thinking frequently about death or about ending their life
  • taking steps towards ending their life, such as giving away possessions, saying goodbye to people, finding ways and means to act on their thoughts (medication, weapons)
  • taking increasing risks, such as excessive alcohol and drug use, or putting themselves in potentially dangerous situations

 

If you are thinking about suicide, it is important to talk to someone.

Though you may be afraid of asking for help, or worried what people will think, support is readily available.

Talk to someone: reach out and tell someone that you are not okay. It can be difficult to open up, but talking about what you are thinking and feeling will make a big difference.

Seek help: there are many helpful services available in the community, at school, or through work. There are supports available to you when you are in crisis and others that focus on ongoing wellbeing and recovery. Some of these are listed at the bottom of this page.

Find strategies and ways to cope that work for you: for many people, thoughts of suicide can occur throughout their life. For others, it may be a one-off experience. Learn how to recognise who and what you need when you are feeling this way and seek them out straight away.

Have hope: it can feel like no one else understands, but many people have had thoughts about suicide or attempted suicide and survived. Taking the first steps to get help can sometimes be, but people do get through this and go on to live happy and fulfilling lives

Are you concerned about someone you believe may be thinking about suicide? Here’s what you can do.

Ask people if they need help and if they are thinking about suicide: you might be worried or anxious about asking someone if they are thinking about suicide, but talking to someone about how they are feeling is the first step towards them getting help. For many people, talking about their suicidal feelings is a relief.

Listen to their concerns:  often we will want to jump straight in and fix their problems, but it is important to listen to the pain or distress people are experiencing.  This helps them know that their pain has been heard and that someone cares.  Often you will want to jump in with advice, but it is really important to take the time to sit and listen and then support with pathways to care.

Don’t try and support a person by yourself: getting others involved is really useful. You can also call one of the services listed below. They’ll give you advice on what to do and say, and talk to you about how to get professional support for the person you’re concerned about if it’s needed.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself as well: suicidal thoughts and acts can seem extremely difficult to understand and could possibly leave you feeling confused and at a loss about what to do or say. You may even have a strong sense of it being your responsibility to keep the person you are supporting safe. Supporting someone who is at risk of suicide can be a challenging and worrying time. It is important to seek support and advice for yourself and all the services listed on this page are available to you as well. They will talk to you about how best to support the person you’re concerned about, and also talk to you about how to take care of yourself as well.

Need help now?

If immediate help is required, call 000

Mensline
Free, confidential, support 24/7 from trained specialist counsellors
1300 78 99 78 (national)

Lifeline
Free, confidential support 24/7
13 11 14 (national)

Beyond Blue 
Free, confidential support from trained specialist counsellors 24/7
1300 22 4636

Wellways Helpline
Free, confidential advice information and service referral from peer volunteers (note: this is not a crisis line)
1300 111 5000 (national, 9am-5pm, Monday to Friday)

In person

Psychologists
Local psychologists can be found by contacting the Australian Psychological Society on (03) 8662 3300 (toll free 1800 333 497)

Counsellors
Local counsellors can be found by contacting the Australian Counsellors Association on 1300 784 333

If you need to talk, you can also call our Helpline.

The following services are available to you and to family members, carers and friends.

 

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For more information, please contact Wellways on 1300 111 400.